1970 -
In May, 1970 we left Detroit,
Michigan and headed down to Toledo, Ohio. Holy
Toledo! here we come.
It was late May, when we arrived there.
We stayed in a tent on a campground until I found us a place to live. It took me a couple of weeks to find an apartment. The drinking and abuse was getting worse.
1970 -
After a few months there, we met two
teenage girls, that were
visiting their aunt next door. Their mother was a drunk and had kicked
them out. She was worried the girls would take
her new husband away from her.
The oldest girl Sandy, (16) came to
live with us and her sister, Cathy stayed with
her aunt. I became
Sandy's foster mother soon after. I was only 23
myself at the time.
One day I heard André telling Sandy's uncle the
story on how he got
robbed in Detroit. It was not the same story I
heard. He told him he paid
$50.00 for a black prostitute and on their way to
her apartment, a
black guy jumped him and took his billfold.
1970 - On most weekends, Sandy and I would take the kids to the drive-in theatre or window shopping if we had no money, to get away from my husband. He was getting drunk every weekends and I couldn't stand getting abused by him anymore. Sometimes, we would just sit in the car somewhere and wait until he was passed out before we went home. One day, he didn't want us to leave with "his car" so he laid on the hood of the car and was holding on to the windshield wipers, so I gave him a ride in the alley. Today I think it's funny, but not back then.
1971 -
In the spring of 1971, we moved to a big house in
another part of town.
Shorthly after we moved, I
received a phone call
from my family, telling me that my 19 yr old
sister, Diane had died in a
big hotel fire. Two of my brothers were firemen
on call that night and
one of them found her body. I don't even think
they knew that she was at
the hotel that evening. Our little girl Chantal
and I took a plane to Québec for
the funerals, leaving our son Jacques with André
and Sandy. We had
the tent set up in the back yard and one of
André's homosexual friend would sleep there
almost every night. I woke up around 4:00 AM one
morning and Andre was not in the house, so I went
outside to look for him. I started to unzip the
tent and someone was holding the zipper down so I couldn't get in. He finally came out a few
minutes later and told me he was having a beer
with Joe.
1971 -
One evening, I was not feeling good, so I
took a nap, I woke up
and heard my little girl saying "Daddy why you
playing with Sandy's
boo...". I got up and seen my husband with Sandy
on the sofa kissing,
with his hand inside her blouse, in front of our
5 yr. old little girl.
I moved out of our bedroom, and never had
anything else to do with him
again. Sandy moved
in with an old lady next
door. I had no place
else to go, so the kids and I stayed there for a while. André also
moved next door. I think I lived in Toledo with
him for a year and a half. In
late summer I became involved with another
French Canadian. He seemed
so "nice". His name was
Gaston Lachance. He worked with my ex,
and drank with my ex. We
packed all we could fit
in the cap of the pick-up truck , and off we went in the middle of the
night. Oh boy what a trip. A case of beer in the
back and a bottle of
Black Velvet whiskey under the seat. He decided
he was gonna be doing
all the driving. When we got
to the Canadian border, we really got searched.
We always kept 3-4 big
bags of sand in the back, for weight in the
winter time, and they sliced
them all up with a knife to check inside of them, and they opened all of
our luggages, what a mess. He was getting
drunker and drunker, and
still refused to let me drive. He drove more than 900 miles without any
problems, except for swerving a little, once in a while When we got passed Québec City, the roads were all snow and ice. He missed a curve
and thank god, there was a long driveway that
went straight across our
path. We finally came to a stop, 3 feet from a
garage. Snow covered three fourth
of our truck, and my door was the only one that
would open. I had to get
out and shovel us out of there. We made it the
rest of the way with no
problems.